You know that oft-cited “stat” about how half of unions cease in divorce, and it’s only getting worse?
Well here’s the good news: It’s not altogether true-blue! Divorce proportions are actually falling among younger generations in the United States for a number of reasons, including people awaiting a bit longer until they’re sure they want to tie the knot.
Now here’s the bad news: The divorce frequency is still somewhere between a half and a third, which entails — when minors are involved — there are still an horrid heap of “blended families” out there.
We tend to think of a divorce as an emotional process fitted with violence and bitternes, but it’s not always that simple. Most mothers would agree that they want to do whatever is best for their children. And in a lot of cases when divorce is implied, that necessitates continuing to work together with their ex-partner, even once the matrimony itself is over.
Easy? Surely not. Impossible? Not necessarily.
Mom Hayley Booth lately shared her own merged household legend on Facebook and introduces the identify she expends for her ex’s new spouse, Dakota: She’s her daughter’s “bonus mommy.”
Booth’s photo, which shows the two women sauntering their daughter down the hallway on her first day of academy, makes it clear that the exes and new collaborators in this family get along.
But how do they do it?
“My answer is always the same — We just cherish our daughter, ” she writes. “Seriously, it’s just that simple.”
During Booth’s divorce, “It was hard to see past[ the indignation ], ” she clarifies in a Facebook message.
With time and communication, nonetheless, came mending.
“Believe it or not, we talked through our problems. We did what adults are supposed to do, ” she announces. “[ I recognized Dakota] wasn’t trying to replace me at all. She was just trying to love my little girl the best she could. And that helped me hear past all of it.”
Most research is demonstrated that divorce doesn’t inevitably entail poor long-term aftermaths for kids, but that doesn’t necessitate it doesn’t take hard work and a lot of adoration from everyone involved to constitute that a reality.
Booth responds thousands of mothers have written to her since her tale extended viral, some praising her for sharing, others desperate for the recommendations on how to make their own complicated arrangement job. She admits that it can’t ever wield, that sometimes there might be too much ache to overcome.
She hopes her storey and her friendship with her daughter’s Bonus Mommy can help some people in their own lives.
“I truly hope it’s reaching the right people, ” she says.