We have a beautiful but sometimes horrible wont of discovering the most wonderful in others. We view the most wonderful in others because we deem this logical notion that what we put into such relationships, the authorities concerned will get in return. How we are dealing with others is how they will discuss us back.
But in reality we learn that is not practically the instance. Because match is never typically 50/50, and what I find more often than not is that many ties-in we regard, both affectionate and dreamy, are far from being offset. It’s frequently closer to a 70/20 or a 90/10 or a ongoing mixture of equations changing on a daily basis depending on the attitude. Because as humans, we can’t expect others to plow us how we want to be treated, even though as a kid we might have believed otherwise.
The Golden Rule commonwealths, “Treat others how you want to be treated, ” yet there’s no govern showing others will treat you how you want to be treated.
But for some ground, I will continue to treat others how I hope they will treat me. With respect, with kindness, with financing, with curiosity. and with the amount of struggle I think everyone deserves. Maybe it’s a stern reality knowing you have no limitation of how others may behave back to you, but that’s okay. That’s okay because I don’t get by to being the one that employs in only 10% in such relationships. To me, that’s pointless. I would rather save that power for nothing at all.
Maybe I will always be the 10% receiver in these relationships, but at the least I can breathe knowing I am not the one lacking.
What I have learned is we shouldn’t kind relationships with the expectation that we will get something in return. Because when we start expecting struggle from others, isn’t that simply selfish? It’s selfish to simply connect with others with the pure expectation that they’ll make us the perfect amount of attending or campaign that we hope. I don’t reckon affinities like this are sustainable and often have contributed to frustration. I don’t think we must take and take from others in order to be happy.
We ever say it’s better to give than to receive, and truthfully, they both feel amazing, but what I know is I will always be the kind of human that grants. Maybe I do not receive as much as I deserve, but who characterizes that regardless? I don’t head.